Here’s an interesting question I came across on Twitter the other day:
What do you see as unimportant and don’t spend time on that a lot of other people see as important and spend a lot of time on?
I love these kind of questions as they let me reflect on the way I behave and perhaps find things that I should change. This is quite a loaded question and is framed within the context of the lives of the majority of people living in the West.
Here’s my list:
- Social media (except for Twitter ~10 mins a day)
- Discussing mainstream news
- TV (I do watch a few thought-provoking series though)
- Celebrity culture
- Daily stock/crypto prices
- Group discussions (I prefer deep 1-1 conversations)
- Commuting during rush hours
On the other hand, there are also a number of things that I spend a lot of time on that a lot of other people probably don’t. Here’s a few I thought of:
- Researching restaurants to try out
- Practicing sports (mostly training and playing padel)
- Health (education, check ups, physiotherapy)
- Learning languages
- Tidiness (keeping possessions organized and clean, data backups and organization)
On occasions when I want to make a major purchase I will spend an inordinate amount of time on research, which might not be that optimal. On the other hand, I do enjoy the process of research and educating myself about the product I’m planning to buy, and I feel it makes my appreciation of the product I end up getting.
Perhaps after spending some time reflecting on this question, it’s worth reading about the five most common regrets of the dying.
Here’s what the majority say:
- I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
- I wish I hadn’t worked so much.
- I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
- I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
- I wish that I had let myself be happier.
I guess it’s well worth rethinking how you spend your time in the light of these regrets of the dying.
What would your lists look like?