For many years I struggled with associating myself with the country where I was born, especially when I started to travel on a long-term basis and now that I’ve spent most of my adult life living outside of that country.

Mine is not an isolated case, and I know many others who have several thoughts and feelings after going through similar experiences.

I do not feel patriotic nor feel any particular pride for the country I was born in. I do appreciate everything I benefited from while living there, but at the bottom of it what I feel is a sense of being lucky to be born in a very good environment, compared to all the other places that I could have been born and raised in.

I strongly dislike nationalism and have seen its negative outcomes and induced madness first hand in Catalunya.

The concept of the nation-state has been very influential in the past few centuries, and has fully taken the place of religion in many parts of the world. I believe that we are seeing the first signs of the fall of the nation-state, and more and more people losing this strong sense of binding their identity with their country of birth or childhood. For many people who work in the digital industry, this is already the case. As one of them, I consider myself a citizen of the world. Home can be anywhere where I can find a supportive environment, good internet and the freedom to work and live.

Here’s an excerpt from My Country, a song by one of my favorite musicians; Roger Taylor:

I would not fight for my country
I would not work to no rule
Don’t have no truck with no power game
Won’t be some other jerk’s tool
Don’t have no part of no partisans
Won’t have no part ‘cos one party and another’s all the same
All the same
Gonna play it at my own game

Don’t wanna die for some old man’s crusade
Don’t wanna hear what they feed
Don’t wanna kill for some cause of the age
Don’t wanna cry for somebody else’s need
Don’t want no piece of no flag in the breeze
Don’t want no part ‘cos one party and another’s all the same
All the same
Gonna play it at my own game

Going forward, nations will have to compete to attract people to live there, by offering the best possible conditions. In many ways, they will be like today’s companies, in a healthy competitive environment. This will cause governments to stop acting in a totalitarian way and focus on actually being efficient and improving their country in order to attract more quality citizens.

One question I’ve spent a lot of time on (as in, years of internal thought, research, etc) is how should I spend my time.

I’ve always had this feeling that we don’t give too much importance to this question, and fall into well-defined societal templates without much care.

I think I’ve finally cracked the code and found my own personal answer.

I realized that the question does not involve endless productivity exercises and extremes of lifestyle design and optimization.

It really boils down to what my priorities are.

That might seem like an easy answer, but it was quite a struggle to get to the bottom of it and be honest enough with myself to come up with three main priorities.

Anyway, here they are:

1. Health and Fitness
2. Relationships
3. Wealth Generation

With those in place, it’s very easy to know what I need to do every day in order to feel fulfilled and satisfied.

I need to train with specific objectives in mind, using the deliberate practice theory. Within the health and fitness domain, my main objectives are strength, flexibility and injury prevention. With those covered, I also cover the cardio and play needs through playing padel and tennis. Being in good health and physical shape keeps me lucid and positive, and thus able to reach out beyond myself and move on to my second priority: relationships.

Hopefully, we all know how relationships are essential to leading a good life. The saying no man is an island really is true. I’m not talking about constantly being surrounded by people, but about cultivating deep relationships with at least 5 people in our lives. I know who those 5 people are and make sure that my bond with them stays strong.

And my third priority is wealth generation. Generating wealth in various ways keeps my mind alive and excited. I’ve always been interested in business and ways I could provide value to the rest of society and in so doing generate wealth for my family. It’s not that much fun being very healthy and having great relationships when you can’t provide for your family and enjoy fine things in life like a comfortable and relaxing home, good food and drink, travel, etc.

If you’re not sure about your life priorities, a useful exercise would be to talk to an older person in your family like your grandma or grandpa and ask them what they regret most about not doing more of in their lives. If they’re no longer alive, just read the top regrets of the dying here and here.

Be sure to be completely honest with yourself about whatever your priorities might be, and don’t let others’ expectations define your priorities and the way you live.

It’s safe to say that as far as public perception goes, poker has gone through what you might call a makeover. No longer is it considered a game played only by men in backrooms or smoky casinos. In fact, the rise of online poker has seen the game come into the mainstream, with events such as the World Series of Poker (WSOP) now watched by millions of people each year. Add to that the fact that we now have many successful female pro poker players and even Jeopardy champions at the tables and well, let’s say people are much more accepting of the game.

But did you know that poker has quite the ace up its sleeve? I had to get a pun out of the way before we could continue. Seriously, though, it’s true. Poker has the power to help you improve your self-confidence, and it’s all about adopting the poker mindset.

The Poker Mindset

Poker is a mentally demanding game, and as such, there are many sports psychologists that help players improve their mindset. One such psychologist is Jared Tendler. He helps players improve the mental side of their poker game and get themselves into the poker mindset.

Tendler is of the opinion that self-confidence is key to a player’s success. And that self-confidence comes from a player’s faith in the ability to make the right decisions based on the possible outcomes of the game. However, that doesn’t mean that winning is everything. The truth is it’s quite the opposite.

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Over the past few years I’ve really enjoyed learning more about science and getting familiarised with several skeptic books and websites. I have found it truly enlightening to read about so many common myths and their debunks. Wherever we were brought up, we end believing a shocking number of fallacies that can stay with us all our lives unless we actively search for the truth.

Here are some favorite resources if you want to have some myth debunkal fun of your own:

• Skeptic.com
• Skeptoid.com
• Skeptical Science
• Skeptical Enquirer
• Neurologica
• Center for Enquiry
• Snopes.com
• Rationalwiki

I also recommend the Science Salon podcast hosted by Michael Schermer.

Know of any other great skeptic resources? Let me know in the comments section.

I’ve been meditating for a few years now, almost on a daily basis using the Calm app, and when I have some downtime I’ll do some longer periods of meditation and reflection on what’s going on in my life.

Mindfulness practice is not something we should do at the start or end of the day only though. Practical mindfulness is knowing how to apply mindfulness practice in daily life as we go along our day. By nature, I’m quite easily irritated and frustrated, and I am constantly working on improving this part of myself. I know exactly how it feels and how it manifests in my body. I clench my teeth, I can feel my heart beating rapidly, my legs get restless, and everything else in the world seems to fade away as my whole being zooms in on the discomfort and injustice of the situation. It’s a dark place to be in and not conducive to any good result especially when interacting with people.

This sense of irritation and frustration is easily triggered, but a very typical trigger is when I have to call customer service for any big company. Here’s a recent one from when I had to call my bank. As usual, I had to navigate my way through a series of automated questions and subsequent questions, which is enough to trigger some frustration and “don’t waste my time” feeling. Add to that the fact that I was calling due to a mistake the bank had made with my account, so I was already charged going into the call. As I was put on hold and left alone with the elevator music, I noticed stress in my stomach and tension in my body. I stopped, realizing this irritation felt familiar. I know I have this tendency to get frustrated and I didn’t want to strengthen it.

It was an opportunity to tap into my practice. So I took a few deep breaths and helped my mind and body relax. I made a commitment to myself that when the customer rep would come on the phone I would express no irritation and treat them warmly. When she asked if I was having a nice day, instead of projecting my irritation, I said “I am, thanks. How are you?”. The conversation then proceeded calmly, it was indeed their mistake and I had to explain what happened, wait until I was put on hold for a few more minutes, and then have them acknowledge the mistake and rectify it. In this situation there was nothing I could do to influence things, they made a mistake and it needed to be fixed, following all their standard procedures. The only factor I had under my control was my response before and throughout the conversation.

Since this is a challenging scenario for me, when I hung up the phone I had a sense of triumph. If we remain grounded and mindful in situations where we can easily become irritated, even if we don’t get what we want we release the stress and irritation that we are carrying. To me, that in itself is a victory. The way Thich Nhat Hanh describes it is that every feeling is a field of energy; a pleasant feeling is a feeling that can nourish, irritation is a feeling that can destroy. Under the light of awareness, the energy of irritation can be transformed into an energy which nourishes. So basically, our choices directly strengthen the qualities within us. If we practice patience, we strengthen patience. If we get swept away by irritation, we strengthen irritation.

It’s up to us which quality we wish to strengthen.